What if, instead of regulating and managing our emotions, we allowed them to point us toward pkaces where creativity and fresh new meanings and knowings can come about?
One might say that that’s one thing the Focusing (letting a felt sense form) adds to the idea of regulation and management of our life
Author: Vera R. Fryd Lyngmo
Vera Rolfine Fryd Lyngmo er en rådgiver med mastergrad, basert i Trondheim. Jeg opplever at mitt "kall" er knyttet til å gjøre noe for menneskene i verden, hovedsakelig gjennom rådgivning og kursing, men også gjennom å spre smil og glede hvor jeg kan. Siden august 2018 har jeg jobbet deltid i administrasjonen ved Institutt for pedagogikk og livslang læring ved NTNU, mens jeg funderer over livet og starter opp min egen Focusing og rådgivningspraksis.
Vera Rolfine Fryd Lyngmo is an MSc in Counselling, based in Trondheim, Norway. I find that my calling is connected to doing something for the people of the world, mainly through counselling and giving courses,but also through spreading smiles and joy where I can. Since August 2018 I have worked as an admin at the Department of education and lifelong learning at NTNU (Norwgian University of Technology and Science), while musing on life and starting up my own Focusing and counselling practices.
Why I am not clear about Gendlin’s Focusing, even after 16 years
The other day, I saw a post by someone who wrote about how they had become clear about Gendlin’s Focusing. This made me think of how I very often, when I teach Focusing, have to take a moment and sense and feel, and often say to my students “I don’t quite know”, or they share…
Introduction to Felt Sensing (Focusing) starts February 9th, 2026.
Felt Sensing/Focusing course starting in Feb 26. A practice that is based on the research into what leads to change
Some sentences to try out when being trapped or stuck in/with pain – emotional or physical
Throughout our lives, we (will) all experience hardships and situations where we feel overwhelmed, trapped or stuck in and with pain, either of physical injury or pain, or of life experiences that are overwhelming and scary. Yes, of course, everyone does… When we do get stuck or trapped, it is often because our thinking about…
Felt Sensing and With-Sensing (Focusing and Listening) Training 2023/24
With Vera R. Fryd Lyngmo at Grounded Space Focusing Learn to listen to yourself and others compassionately and in ways that move you forward – read more about the full course content on this link All courses happen on Wednesdays at 18.30-21.00 CEST (convert to your time zone) Module: The Basics of Felt Sensing 1….
Holding (seeming) opposites
The other day I had (another, I might say) experience of the magic of being the one that holds (seeming) opposites, which is a feature of Focusing that I truly treasure. I think that one of the corners that (many of us) Westerners have painted ourselves into is the notion of “either-or”, “black-or-white”, “good-or-bad”, “shit-or-great”….
The power of slowness, pausing and “resonating”
This post is about the importance of “resonance” when we listen to ourselves and others as an important thing not to forget. I am writing about it because I need the reminder myself in Focusing sessions, but I also think the Listner/With-Senser can benefit from their own resonating, and I suggest how we might use it in listening in everyday life too…
A Felt Sense is…
Gendlin’s term Felt Sense was coined in the sixties to help people become aware of a felt experience we had no language to speak of in Western society yet. It was discovered as the crucial ingredient that made change happen (in therapy), and firstly described as an “inner referent”, “just outside awareness”. The Felt Sense…
A memory isn’t just a thought image, but a unique, bodily-felt-experience
(Norsk versjon finner du ved å klikke på lenka) The other day I saw one of the many videos on Facebook with nature experiences that people share. It was a video of some Mobula Rays swimming in synchronicity with a wave washing onto a sunny shore. In an instance it was as if I was…
A poem of a kind – about an inner landscape.
A poem, of a kind, about an inner landscape. It’s called: “I have this horrible secret”
Grounded Space Focusing 