The other day I had (another, I might say) experience of the magic of being the one that holds (seeming) opposites, which is a feature of Focusing that I truly treasure. I think that one of the corners that (many of us) Westerners have painted ourselves into is the notion of “either-or”, “black-or-white”, “good-or-bad”, “shit-or-great”….
Tag: Felt Sense
The power of slowness, pausing and “resonating”
This post is about the importance of “resonance” when we listen to ourselves and others as an important thing not to forget. I am writing about it because I need the reminder myself in Focusing sessions, but I also think the Listner/With-Senser can benefit from their own resonating, and I suggest how we might use it in listening in everyday life too…
A memory isn’t just a thought image, but a unique, bodily-felt-experience
(Norsk versjon finner du ved å klikke på lenka) The other day I saw one of the many videos on Facebook with nature experiences that people share. It was a video of some Mobula Rays swimming in synchronicity with a wave washing onto a sunny shore. In an instance it was as if I was…
Why I came up with the course “Being a person with another person”.
There are at least two reasons I came up with the course, Being a person with another person, one of which is that I always wondered what to do next, after having become proficient at Focusing. There didn’t seem to be that much on offer if you wanted to continue exploring but didn’t want to…
Staying with the sense of the complexity of a problem may ease it more than breaking it down into pieces
Layer upon layer of complexity- that’s what our troubles often are. And then we like to break them into pieces to simplify and make them clear, but that’s mainly because we don’t yet know how to “have” complexity without getting overwhelmed.