When I describe to others who are unfamiliar with Focusing, what it is, I often get the comment or question if Focusing isn’t just the same as Mindfulness. In this little piece I would like to try to outline some of the differences and similarities between Focusing and Mindfulness. To start with, I would like…
Why I came up with the course “Being a person with another person”.
There are at least two reasons I came up with the course, Being a person with another person, one of which is that I always wondered what to do next, after having become proficient at Focusing. There didn’t seem to be that much on offer if you wanted to continue exploring but didn’t want to…
Advanced listening course – Being a person with another person
Finished your levels, the Focusing and listening skills, and wondering what to do next? Try “Being a person with another person” and explore and deepen your listening to yourself and others: A 7-week advanced Zoom course about the relational sides to Felt Sensing: in regular Focusing partnerships, in helping professions and in everyday life. The…
Staying with the sense of the complexity of a problem may ease it more than breaking it down into pieces
Layer upon layer of complexity- that’s what our troubles often are. And then we like to break them into pieces to simplify and make them clear, but that’s mainly because we don’t yet know how to “have” complexity without getting overwhelmed.
The Guest House
This poem “The guest house” by Rumi, says much about what Felt Sensing is about – welcoming and getting to know each guest that arrives inside. With curiosity, openness and compassion.
Why call Focusing “Felt Sensing”?
I, Vera R. Fryd Lyngmo, am officially (by The International Focusing Institute) a Focusing Teacher/Trainer, and I am teaching (my own version of) Gendlin’s Focusing, that he discovered in his research into what leads to change (in a therapeutic setting) in the 1950’s. Attempts at explaining Focusing to people Over the years, while mentioning and trying…
Weary of being told “just think positive!”?
Norsk versjon av innlegget There seems to be this “epidemic” going round in later years: self-help guides and coaches, best friends and colleagues have learned, and are trying to teach us, that all we have to do is “think positive”, when something in life is hard. Not that positive thinking in itself is a bad…
Having it together with – an example to illustrate the importance of togetherness between human beings
One thing that I am learning from Focusing, is this thing that I have started to call “having it together with”. In some counselling and psychology traditions, as well as in educational contexts, one talks about empathy, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, and “seeing” the other person. To me “having together with”, is…
Focusing is…
I asked some of my Focusing friends and partners to say what Focusing is, in one sentence. This is what they said: “Through Focusing I can feel that I really, deeply like myself” (S.) “Focusing is a way of finding peace and coming into connection with parts of me that feel uncomfortable/difficult/stuck, as well as…
Felt Sensing makes it easier to trust what comes from within…
…, even what seems “angry at me” or “negative”, because Felt Sensing becomes a tool to get a relationship with it, to hear better what’s actually underneath. And what’s actually underneath is, always, without exeption, that it’s trying to “save you” from a situation (or several situations simultaneously) that are experienced as unbearable and even…
