The other day I had (another, I might say) experience of the magic of being the one that holds (seeming) opposites, which is a feature of Focusing that I truly treasure. I think that one of the corners that (many of us) Westerners have painted ourselves into is the notion of “either-or”, “black-or-white”, “good-or-bad”, “shit-or-great”….
The power of slowness, pausing and “resonating”
This post is about the importance of “resonance” when we listen to ourselves and others as an important thing not to forget. I am writing about it because I need the reminder myself in Focusing sessions, but I also think the Listner/With-Senser can benefit from their own resonating, and I suggest how we might use it in listening in everyday life too…
A Felt Sense is…
Gendlin’s term Felt Sense was coined in the sixties to help people become aware of a felt experience we had no language to speak of in Western society yet. It was discovered as the crucial ingredient that made change happen (in therapy), and firstly described as an “inner referent”, “just outside awareness”. The Felt Sense…
A memory isn’t just a thought image, but a unique, bodily-felt-experience
(Norsk versjon finner du ved å klikke på lenka) The other day I saw one of the many videos on Facebook with nature experiences that people share. It was a video of some Mobula Rays swimming in synchronicity with a wave washing onto a sunny shore. In an instance it was as if I was…
A poem of a kind – about an inner landscape.
A poem, of a kind, about an inner landscape. It’s called: “I have this horrible secret”
Against the idea of “resistance to change”
It is time we stop spreading this illogical idea that human beings are “resistant to change”, and that change and growth are painful. In the very least, we need to nuance and differentiate what we mean by “change”. Yes, loss is painful – and loss leads to change, but it’s not the change coming from…
Always more to discover and explore about being a listener
I hope that the course will give you more of a sense of who you are and want to be as a listener, make you feel more safe in the exploring way of being there and being you, that it will present you with possible new partners and give you some new ways to support your Focuser.
Grounded Space Focusing Newsletter, Spring 2021
Welcome to this very first newsletter from Grounded Space Focusing!Grounded Space Focusing is a small, part time business run by Vera R. Fryd Lyngmo Vera is a Certified Focusing Professional, a counsellor and a part-time teacher of education, counselling and adult learning in university, in addition to designing and offering Focusing and Felt Sensing courses…
The Joys and Perils of Guiding – online advanced listening course for partnership and client work
– starting May 10! Both Carl Rogers and Eugene Gendlin have pointed out that we human beings are so used to being told what to do: growing up, in school for years, with parents and other “elders”, by teachers and by rules and legislations. As a result, we might also have been encultured into thinking…
Having it there – a way of being there for ourselves
(This text was originally written as a handout for participants on my Felt Sensing and With-Sensing (Focusing and Listening) Training. Introduction In this text I am using the word Felt Sensing instead of the usual “Focusing”. This is signify that this is not about becoming more focused, and that it’s rather about getting in touch…
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