What if, instead of regulating and managing our emotions, we allowed them to point us toward pkaces where creativity and fresh new meanings and knowings can come about?
One might say that that’s one thing the Focusing (letting a felt sense form) adds to the idea of regulation and management of our life
Category: Experiences with Focusing
Holding (seeming) opposites
The other day I had (another, I might say) experience of the magic of being the one that holds (seeming) opposites, which is a feature of Focusing that I truly treasure. I think that one of the corners that (many of us) Westerners have painted ourselves into is the notion of “either-or”, “black-or-white”, “good-or-bad”, “shit-or-great”….
The power of slowness, pausing and “resonating”
This post is about the importance of “resonance” when we listen to ourselves and others as an important thing not to forget. I am writing about it because I need the reminder myself in Focusing sessions, but I also think the Listner/With-Senser can benefit from their own resonating, and I suggest how we might use it in listening in everyday life too…
A memory isn’t just a thought image, but a unique, bodily-felt-experience
(Norsk versjon finner du ved å klikke på lenka) The other day I saw one of the many videos on Facebook with nature experiences that people share. It was a video of some Mobula Rays swimming in synchronicity with a wave washing onto a sunny shore. In an instance it was as if I was…
Having it together with – an example to illustrate the importance of togetherness between human beings
One thing that I am learning from Focusing, is this thing that I have started to call “having it together with”. In some counselling and psychology traditions, as well as in educational contexts, one talks about empathy, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, and “seeing” the other person. To me “having together with”, is…
Focusing is…
I asked some of my Focusing friends and partners to say what Focusing is, in one sentence. This is what they said: “Through Focusing I can feel that I really, deeply like myself” (S.) “Focusing is a way of finding peace and coming into connection with parts of me that feel uncomfortable/difficult/stuck, as well as…
Grounded Space Focusing 