Author: Vera R. Fryd Lyngmo

Vera Rolfine Fryd Lyngmo er en rådgiver med mastergrad, basert i Trondheim. Jeg opplever at mitt "kall" er knyttet til å gjøre noe for menneskene i verden, hovedsakelig gjennom rådgivning og kursing, men også gjennom å spre smil og glede hvor jeg kan. Siden august 2018 har jeg jobbet deltid i administrasjonen ved Institutt for pedagogikk og livslang læring ved NTNU, mens jeg funderer over livet og starter opp min egen Focusing og rådgivningspraksis. Vera Rolfine Fryd Lyngmo is an MSc in Counselling, based in Trondheim, Norway. I find that my calling is connected to doing something for the people of the world, mainly through counselling and giving courses,but also through spreading smiles and joy where I can. Since August 2018 I have worked as an admin at the Department of education and lifelong learning at NTNU (Norwgian University of Technology and Science), while musing on life and starting up my own Focusing and counselling practices.

Against the idea of “resistance to change”

It is time we stop spreading this illogical idea that human beings are “resistant to change”, and that change and growth are painful. In the very least, we need to nuance and differentiate what we mean by “change”. Yes, loss is painful – and loss leads to change, but it’s not the change coming from…

Always more to discover and explore about being a listener

I hope that the course will give you more of a sense of who you are and want to be as a listener, make you feel more safe in the exploring way of being there and being you, that it will present you with possible new partners and give you some new ways to support your Focuser.

The Joys and Perils of Guiding – online advanced listening course for partnership and client work

– starting May 10! Both Carl Rogers and Eugene Gendlin have pointed out that we human beings are so used to being told what to do: growing up, in school for years, with parents and other “elders”, by teachers and by rules and legislations. As a result, we might also have been encultured into thinking…

Having it there – a way of being there for ourselves

(This text was originally written as a handout for participants on my Felt Sensing and With-Sensing (Focusing and Listening) Training. Introduction In this text I am using the word Felt Sensing instead of the usual “Focusing”. This is signify that this is not about becoming more focused, and that it’s rather about getting in touch…

Why Focusing is not ‘the same as’ Mindfulness

(For norsk versjon, klikk her) When I describe to others who are unfamiliar with Focusing, what it is, I often get the comment or question if Focusing isn’t just the same as Mindfulness. In this little piece I would like to try to outline some of the differences and similarities between Focusing and Mindfulness. To…

Why I came up with the course “Being a person with another person”.

There are at least two reasons I came up with the course, Being a person with another person, one of which is that I always wondered what to do next, after having become proficient at Focusing. There didn’t seem to be that much on offer if you wanted to continue exploring but didn’t want to…

Advanced listening course – Being a person with another person

Finished your levels, the Focusing and listening skills, and wondering what to do next? Try “Being a person with another person” and explore and deepen your listening to yourself and others: A 7-week advanced Zoom course about the relational sides to Felt Sensing: in regular Focusing partnerships, in helping professions and in everyday life. The…

Staying with the sense of the complexity of a problem may ease it more than breaking it down into pieces

Layer upon layer of complexity- that’s what our troubles often are. And then we like to break them into pieces to simplify and make them clear, but that’s mainly because we don’t yet know how to “have” complexity without getting overwhelmed.

The Guest House

This poem “The guest house” by Rumi, says much about what Felt Sensing is about – welcoming and getting to know each guest that arrives inside. With curiosity, openness and compassion.