The joys and perils of guiding – a two part advanced guiding and listening course (12 + 8 weeks)

– for Focusing partnership and client work

  • Struggling with insecurities about listening and guiding in Focusing partnerhsip?
  • Wonder how to bring Focusing into your practice with clients?
  • Not sure when to be silent and when to say something back?
  • Worried about guiding too much or not enough?
  • Have partners who suggest to you to do what you are already doing?
  • Wondering how to guide a first-timer in Focusing?
  • Scared your Focuser will ask you for help?

More info:

Online course (Zoom)
Part One is 12 weeks. 3 hours each week


Part Two is 8 weeks
. 2,5 hours each week

Minimum 8 participants, maximum 12 (first part)

This 2-part course is for you if you:
– …are feeling insecure about guiding in Focusing partnership
– …are a therapist, counsellor, coach, or other healing professional wanting to bring Focusing (more) into your work with clients
– …want to deepen your listening and guiding skills with a Focusing partner

You can book part 1 by itself, and stop there, or book part 2 later, or you can book both at the same time.

Prerequisites:

Part One: Focusing and Listening Skills certificate/4-5 leves of Focusing and Listening/Felt Sensing and With-Sensing Training or equivalent, with a Certified Focusing Professional (CFP)
Prerequisites Part Two: As above, plus Part One of this course (or equivalent)
Recommended for Part Two: Regular client work



Both Rogers and Gendlin have pointod to how we human beings are so used to being told what to do, growing up: in school for years, with parents and other “elders”, by teachers and by rules and legislations. As a result, we might also have been encultured into thinking that the only way of learning and growing is to be helped and told, and hence that listening and helping means we have to tell and advice the other person.


One of the strengths (and maybe perils) of Focusing is that as listeners, we can sit back and let the process take its course, and as Focusers we can finally (maybe nervously) take more charge and get to know our own inner voice and next natural steps.
There is (“supposed to be”) an underling trust in the process, the knowing of the body, rather than the knowing of the outsider/listener.

So what, then, when we’re supposed to “guide”, “suggest” and be “helpful” anyway?

In my experience, it takes a lot of courage and willingness to be vulnerable and not-knowing and willingness to be corrected as a listener to someone else’s process.
As well as keen attunement – it’s like stepping into a field of tension between being supposed to/wanting to help, and being supposed to/wanting to “step out of the way” and just listen.
On the one end of the continuum we might end up taking too much charge, and on the other end of the continuum, we might end up seeming aloof and dis-interested, and then there’s all of the stuff inbetween: like nervousness, fear, shame, over-confidence, deep insecurity etc.

In this course we will explore the traps, the joys, the pros and cons of “stepping out of the way just about enough“, as a listener and guide in a Felt Sensing way.


Content and goals for Part One (12 weeks)

We will start by going back to the basics of silent listening, and advance from there, trying out, then sensing, reflecting and sharing about the qualities of each of those “skills”, elements or “steps” in listening in a Felt Sensing way (see more details below).

As a result of the course I hope that you will feel more secure in each “skill”, and that your own, unique quality as a listener will emerge and/or be strengthened and solidified. I also hope that you, both as Focuser Listener and helping professional will feel more confident in taking vulnerable daring steps in the shared listening space. The Listener will feel more confident in being “corrected”, and be more attuned to letting the unique process of the Focuser or client guide your Listening and your Guiding.

Content and goals for Part Two (8 weeks)

This course builds on Part One, and will explore direct ways of bringing the skills from the first part, into client work. This means that you will benefit from having clients while the course is ongoing.

As a result of this course I hope that you will feel even more secure in listening and guiding as a helping professional, and that case examples and practicing between classes will give you hands-on support and input for bringing Focusing into your work with your clients. I hope you will have a clearer sense of similarities and differences between guiding/listening in working with client and in reciprocal Focusing partnership.


The Joys and Perils of Guiding (part one) – 12 weeks

Goals of this course:

  • To become more daring as a Focusing Listener
  • To feel more confident with guiding and not guiding
  • To become more secure in giving feedback into the shared Listening Space
  • To become more attuned to letting the process teach you

Topics:

  • Silent listening and acknowledging sounds
  • Reflecting of words, tone of voice, pace and timing
  • Gestures and listening for “the more”
  • “Pure” guiding moves
  • Attunement and letting the process guide us

Teaching methods:

  • Theoretical sharing
  • Trying out in pairs
  • Sharing, sensing and discussions in small groups
  • Presenting to the big group
  • Sharing, sensing and discussions in the big group
  • Partnership between classes
  • For helpers: Trying out with clients between classes



Dates and times for this course:
To be announced

Prices and booking:
Deposit: NOK 500,- (non-refundable, payed upon registering)
Early Bird: NOK 5000,- (until a week before the course starts)
Regular: NOK 5400,- (to be paid two days before the course starts)
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The Joys and Perils of Guiding (part two) – bringing Focusing into client work – 8 weeks

Part Two follows and builds on part One, hence part o-One is prerequisite. It is also recommended to be in practice with clients in some way, as part of this course.

Goals of this course:

  • To feel more confident in bringing Focusing into client work
  • To be more attuned to what might be bodily felt meaning for the client
  • To feel more confident with staying in the space of “not knowing”
  • Increased confidence with the relational space

Topics:

  • The cooperative space in helping relationship
  • Acknowledgement before guiding and acknowledgement as guiding
  • Saying what is here as a guiding “move”
  • “Using ourselves” – relationality as guiding
  • Looking for and guiding the client towards “the bodily felt meaning”
  • Meeting client frustration
  • Guiding a first timer in Focusing

Teaching methods

  • Theoretical sharing
  • Case examples (also from participants)
  • Focusing partnership in class
  • Homework for trying out with clients between classes
  • Partnership between classes
  • Troubleshooting



Times and dates for this course:
To be announced

Prices and booking:
Deposit NOK 500,- ( non-refundable, payed upon registering)
Early bird NOK 1800,– (until a week before the course starts)
Regular NOK 2000,- (to be paid three days before the course starts)
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